Love has no age as it is always renewing itself. – Blaise Pascal
It’s been a year, not that very long but it is worth celebrating as a milestone. We have planted the first of the many steps that we will build for our stairway to forever. Forever does not just happen on a wedding day that feels like all magic and fairytales as what we were made to believe in the stories of happily ever afters. It is something that naturally happens thereafter, at the same time we need to work on it as life throws challenges and victories in every turn and hurdles. It is not something that we set an ideal of because its facade and intensity can constantly change both from within and without. As every changing season and unpredictable weather tries to morph as constantly one thing remains, choosing to be together to go through all the changes.
I can still vividly remember that cold rainy day as I woke up in this little cottage in Mendocino, CA. I can hear the drizzling of the rain that i see fall in the vibrant plants in the garden from this shabby chic kind of window. Soft hum of cool breeze that brought peace and serenity to my soul as I am about to embrace a new chapter in my life.
Both our families are hundreds and thousands of miles away and we both share that desire of keeping things simple, private and intimate. I had my first marriage set in a prestigious Cathedral in my hometown surrounded by family and friends of a 100 guests more or less. That too was special in that chapter of my life. This time our Cathedral was made of giant cypress trees hovering above us with the ocean as our backdrop. No music just the sound of the falling rain, the breeze, the ocean waves and the rustling of the leaves from the trees. It was perfect enough for me. I made my bridal march with just one thing in mind, getting married to the man I love and not having to be self conscious of how I walked in a long aisle, if I looked beautiful enough for the camera or any audience.
Our focus was just Us, our moment shared with Nature and God’s blessings. It was all we need. It was perfect, almost perfect if not for the storm. But to us that made it more special, memorable and epic. Truly describes how adventurous we both are together, and that no matter what the situation will be, we always come out smiling and having the best time of our lives. Our wedding minister Mr. James Sibbet was our sole human witness to that and he made it more special with how he officiated the simple ceremony of exchanging our vows and incorporating God’s blessing and prayer.
The current Covid-19 pandemic that got us both lockdown in our home was probably the most challenging that we have to go through during the first year.
It gave us a preview somehow of what our retirement will look like being that we are stuck together at home 24 hours a day 7 days a week. I meant that to be funny but it’s true we have a vision of the future and we now know we don’t mind being stuck with each other for the rest of our lives and we know we have found in each other the perfect companion in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for great times and in worst times. And we even invaded the Tiktok craze. LOL! Between 1st year and the Golden or Diamond years of marriage it is uncertain what is in between but the in-betweens which we call a work in progress is all the NOW that we can give our all, our best to each other every single day. Other than that I must give much appreciation for this man for setting a path for us to where we can be thriving, be safe and secure in the years to come. Somehow, the carefree person in me learned from him to look at the future with a purpose, to strive to not just survive but truly live well and share the joys and sorrow this beautiful wonderful world can offer until we reach a hundred years old at least.
TIP: To those who were supposed to get married during the lockdown/ shelter in place and to those who are planning to get married this year with this new normal of social distancing, congratulations on your courage to journey together and best wishes as you venture in the road to forever. If somehow you had or will need to cancel large gathering of reception for health & safety precautions. Know that what is most important is the vows you make to each other and before God that will be a constant reminder to make your marriage strong over the years to come. The gathering and dancing can come anytime and in any occasion. At the end of the day it is just you and your spouse when the party is over. And that’s where all the tiny important details are in the canvass of a successful marriage.
This next clip is the last part where our marriage was blessed with prayer before being declared as husband and wife.
“Pastor Sibbet: Most gracious God, we give you thanks for your tender love in sending Jesus Christ to come among us. We thank you, also, for consecrating the union of man and woman in his Name. By the power of your Holy Spirit, pour out the abundance of your blessing upon this man and this woman. Defend them from every enemy. Lead them into all peace. Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts, a mantle about their shoulders, and a crown upon their foreheads. Bless them in their work and in their companionship; in their sleeping and in their waking; in their joys and in their sorrows; in their life and in their death. Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that table where your saints feast for ever in your heavenly home; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who is with you and the Holy Spirit lives and reigns, One God forever and ever. Amen.”
Wether you are a believer or not, we both believe that our marriage and every marriage that is blessed by God or someone of higher power helps us and guides us especially in times of trials and tribulations to stay in the course of keeping the marriage bond strong and sacred.
They said that having your wedding on a rainy day is bad as this may bring tears to the bride for the rest of her life and some say the rain is a blessing that will bring good luck, happiness and fortune. For us, the rain on the wedding day does not define our destiny on how our future will be but our future will depend on the choices we make on this journey now and onwards. It is like creating a pot of clay it is molded with care and patience. It takes time and passion to create a perfect vessel. We believe we have a wonderful journey ahead filled with challenges but most of all victories together. It is forever etched in my memory and my heart that one rainy morning that turned out to be one fine wedding day.
Happy First Wedding Anniversary my Love! Looking forward to more epic years together.